Hey! I’m Luci, and that's Ryan, my husband, with me above. We've been married since 2006, and for about the first decade of our marriage, I remember having to go through all kinds of mental hurdles and justifications to convince my body to get on board with sex:
“He gives you so much! The least you can do is give him sex.”
“It’s been X number of days, you owe him some.”
“He’s been extra helpful around the house lately. You should reward him.”
I remember giving myself these pep talks. Do any of them sound familiar to you? If so, you're definitely not alone!
I loved my husband so much, and felt guilty that I didn't want sex more. Taking care of our four kids, working, taking care of things around the house, and squeezing in some self-care time left me feeling pretty apathetic about sex. Plus, I hadn't yet worked through the plethora of sex-negative, pleasure-denying beliefs and conditioning I'd been carrying around, unknowingly.
At the end of the day (literally), we were simply repeated what we’d seen in media, what we could find in some books, what we’d heard from the people around us, and what had previously worked for us. As much as we wanted to be more erotically creativity, there were some core beliefs and views on sex, pleasure, and sexuality keeping us from tapping into that abundant creativity. But once we did tap in…ohhh boy, did it get juicy!
Fast forward to today: It’s been brought to my attention that you Lovers want more (and I love it, you insatiable creatures, you!). More on seduction. More on foreplay. More erotic creativity, more play, more explicit details…and I’m gonna give it to you, in this juicy course.